tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-48124610823096794002024-02-18T21:33:32.346-05:00Elise Kayfetz, The Early Bird SpecialistElise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.comBlogger89125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-54029943489287855092013-11-19T12:03:00.001-05:002013-11-20T14:17:45.900-05:00Cyber Seniors--Inspiration of the Week<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<a href="http://www.cyberseniorsdocumentary.com/">Cyber Seniors</a> is worth checking out mainly because of the people involved and the messages that are portrayed...well, for me anyway: logging on to the internet= independence and independence=freedom and freedom = happiness; a happiness that is increased by intergenerational relationships. The older adults portrayed in this Cyber Seniors business are completely humbled by the dedication and interest of the younger generations. If you watch it, you will agree, <span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'PT Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.59375px;">Shura Eadie (who unfortunately passed away on October 27th this year) exudes something through your computer screen that you can get anywhere else (sorry, that's vague, but when you watch this, you'll get it and potentially be inspired).</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'PT Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.59375px;">She was a stylish woman (as you can see in the doc trailer</span> <a href="http://youtu.be/sMjtR4ENp8c">here</a>, being viewed on Nov. 29th, 2013 @ the Tiff Bell Lightbox<span style="background-color: white; font-family: 'PT Sans'; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.59375px;">) and lived on the edge especially in her later years: she logged on to the internet and even further, started her own YouTube channel. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: PT Sans;"><span style="line-height: 25.59375px;">And she's not the only one that is getting comfortable online. Stats Canada reported that "29% of people age 75 and over and 60% of those </span></span><span style="font-family: 'PT Sans'; line-height: 25.59375px;">65 to 74 had used the Internet in the previous month</span><span style="font-family: PT Sans;"><span style="line-height: 25.59375px;">," (2010) showing us that older adults are starting to log in more often, and with a little more confidence. And where does that confidence stem from? </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: PT Sans;"><span style="line-height: 25.59375px;">There are many reasons. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: PT Sans;"><span style="line-height: 25.59375px;">As stated above, older adults not only feel confident with their user abilities on the scary world wide web, they feel a sense of reward from their relationships with younger generations. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: PT Sans;"><span style="line-height: 25.59375px;">We hear a lot about these relationships and the importance of sticking the young and old into a room, but give them purpose. Cyber Seniors gives these two generations purpose. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: PT Sans;"><span style="line-height: 25.59375px;">Log On, Cyber Seniors!</span></span><br />
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Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-27639063616624080772013-11-12T16:11:00.002-05:002013-11-12T16:11:20.769-05:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<a href="http://www.demilked.com/delicatessen-with-love-gabriele-galimberti/">Grandmother's and their recipes from around the world!</a></div>
Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-42660056130925800532013-10-02T12:41:00.001-04:002013-10-02T12:41:56.356-04:00Blurred Lines Grandma Dance<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/-1FHBA3sNe8" width="459"></iframe>Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-57372249754073735532013-09-12T17:24:00.000-04:002013-09-12T17:24:00.329-04:00ON AIR with Libby Znaimer talking about Millenials! <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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On August 18th I was called into Libby Znaimer's <i>Zoomer Week In Review</i> studio to talk about millenials...</div>
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Do you work with millennials? That’s the generation born after 1980. Considering they make up a quarter of Canada’s workforce, the answer is likely yes. And you might have noticed their attitude towards employment is very different from ours. From unrealistic career expectations to a constant need for approval, Millennials are changing the dynamics of many Canadian offices. Libby talks to Bruce Mayhew, a Zoomer who has developed a program to help us negotiate the demands of a multi-generational workforce… and Elise Kayfetz, a millennial who will explain the attitudes and opinions of her generation.</div>
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Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-8310161192751154812013-09-10T17:10:00.001-04:002013-09-10T17:13:31.902-04:00Staff Found Mice Nibbling Resident Face...GROSS!!!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Disabled woman's face got nibbled by a mouse?!?!?!<br />
Who is really the mouse in this situation--the overworked caregiver? Or the little rodent?<br />
Do we need to lay out a trail of cheese leading to those in need so their caregivers can respond?<br />
I doubt it. I am more optimistic than that. I've seen plenty of professional formal caregivers.<br />
They say it was a farm nearby that brought the crazy mouse into this Lethbridge facility.<br />
I wish this woman a speedy recovery.<br />
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Thanks MG for bringing this story to my attention.<br />
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<a href="http://www.edmontonjournal.com/health/Staff+found+mice+nibbling+disabled+resident+face+Lethbridge+care+facility+says+Friends/8887656/story.html">Full Story Here</a></div>
Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-12026494250334619122013-08-19T15:22:00.002-04:002013-08-19T15:22:44.479-04:00Parenting Your Parents--Coming Soon!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Straight Talk about Aging in the Family.</span></em><span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">On<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="aqj"><span style="z-index: -1;"><span data-term="goog_2031377837" style="z-index: 0;" tabindex="0">September
21</span></span></span>, the latest edition of Bart and Dr. Gordon’s book,
Parenting Your Parents: Straight Talk About Aging in the Family, will be
released. To set the stage, ask yourself, are you struggling to manage your
parent’s health care, finances, quality of life, or even independence? If so,
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<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "Georgia","serif"; font-size: 10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Millions of people globally, and
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unprecedented demographic change sweeps over the world. People are living
longer than ever before thanks to medical science and positive lifestyle
changes. As a result, millions of elderly parents and grandparents have
slowly but surely become more dependent on their loved ones, especially their
adult children, to provide them with the love, care, support and attention
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must balance caring for aging parents while maintaining their jobs and
relationships with spouses and growing kids… let alone trying to find some me
time. If this is your world, or you’re heading that way, Parenting Your
Parents will be a welcome source of support, information and advice for
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Parents demonstrates, through 24 case studies and the personal experiences of
the authors, that you‘re not alone and offers crucial advice to help you
along this difficult but rewarding journey. It also offers the all-new
Vulnerability Index to help you assess how much support your parents may need
right now, as well as a financial planning section and fully updated,
comprehensive Resource Directory. The book will be available in bookstores,
online and through the website on<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span><span class="aqj"><span style="z-index: -1;"><span data-term="goog_2031377838" style="z-index: 0;" tabindex="0">September 21</span></span></span>. Visit<a href="http://www.parentingyourparents.ca/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #1155cc;">http://www.parentingyourparents.ca/</span></a><span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>to pre-order the book online.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Your Parents is more fulsome and robust in terms of content and relevance
than the earlier editions. The helpful tips and stories, as well as other
useful articles and references, will be of interest to anyone who is managing
their aging parent’s journey.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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book, and to read the Parenting Your Parents blog, visit<a href="http://www.parentingyourparents.ca/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #1155cc;">http://www.parentingyourparents.ca/</span></a>.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-15504326666232198622013-03-25T12:57:00.002-04:002013-03-25T13:07:47.613-04:00Happy Freedom Day!As I am about to enter into the time of Passover, I begin with a tale that had me feeling like a captive emotional prisoner in my own world.<br />
The past two weeks have been hell.<br />
It started off because my mother fell ill. She is a vulnerable older woman with heart disease. A story in and of itself. She needed emergency surgery and the last time she had been "under" was 18 years ago when her challenging life began. We were all under panic and concerned if she would wake up post surgery.<br />
The feeling of waiting and wondering and hoping was sharp. Sitting wasn't possible and breathing was hard especially when you think you are about to lose someone, like a mother. I was trapped in my own emotional world. Numb. Worried. Panicked.<br />
And while some call this neurotic, I call it love.<br />
When we finally got word from the doctor (she was in Florida for all of this) that everything went smooth, we could finally breath and sit. There was relief, clarity and emancipation. I felt free.<br />
One week later. Her service dog, Marvin, literally fell ill.<br />
This dog is the equivalent to freedom for my mother. He has given her independence and companionship. He has walked along her side for 6 years. Has held her hand through tough times and has never failed her.<br />
We thought that this was the end of Marvin. The end of an era that brought love and happiness to our mother and our family.<br />
And on this day, this morning, Marvin got up to walk. We don't know 100% what happened to him--we are still waiting for those details, but regardless of the diagnosis, Marvin, on the first day of Passover, a time in the Jewish calendar to appreciate freedom, we are all of that. Free from that agony of waiting. Free from our own emotional enslavement. We are here and we will remember deeply the pain our ancestors went through. The inability to sit or be comfortable is something we will remember in their honor.<br />
Both my Mother and Marvin are here today for unknown reasons. Their vulnerability, <i>our</i> vulnerability has never been more apparent and our need to appreciate life and freedom has never been more lucid.<br />
Call it luck, call it a miracle. I call it Freedom. Freedom to feel how you need to feel in these critical times and the freedom to know/ feel that we are certainly <i>free</i>.<br />
To all those caring for someone, enslaved by burden and hardship, let this story give you peace.<br />
<br />Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-2495389896683428762012-11-09T14:22:00.002-05:002012-11-09T14:23:01.731-05:00Stop to pose.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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He grew up and saw everything happen on Palmerston Ave. This man has walked old narrow streets lit up by old posts. Him and the posts are still there. He stopped to pose.<br />
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Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-15102010418899429582012-10-10T12:36:00.001-04:002012-10-10T12:36:27.919-04:00Making Memory Permanent <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Their Skin Says<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>‘Never Forget</i>’
speaks volumes to the bond between Holocaust survivors and their grandchildren and
the intense level of commitment these descendents have towards their
grandparents. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: separate;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15px;">(</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 15px;">Read article <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/01/world/middleeast/with-tattoos-young-israelis-bear-holocaust-scars-of-relatives.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all">here</a>) </span></span><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">
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to “never forget” is fascinating, especially if it’s a grandchild. I’ve heard
this before as my cousin in New Jersey has been talking about getting his and
to be honest, I’ve considered it even though my grandparents were not
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that I have chosen to remember not only because I want to remember the horrific
experiences victims of Nazi persecution went through (I wish I didn’t have to) but because I want to make sure it doesn’t happen again; and the one thing that
can help prevent it, is talk about it; so, why not get a conversation piece
tattooed on your forearm and have a chat? Bring the atrocities of our past to
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survivors the assurance that their grandchildren will never forget them for as
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responsibility. With that number comes a story and if a young person, a grandchild
wants to ink that number into his or her arm, I hope and pray he or she is prepared
to tell the story that accompanies it and pass it on. Grandchildren deal with the impact the
Holocaust has on their grandparents in varying ways and if this is one of them,
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A blend of holocaust survivor art and young professional art will be showcased. <br />
Maybe hear the artistic tunes of one Holocaust survivor. <br />
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Looking to curate. Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-80888813529229402442012-06-29T13:48:00.001-04:002012-06-29T13:48:07.637-04:00ZNews - "Beyond Age Rage" Book Launch--BUY THIS BOOK!<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/dgKmoz6eamE?fs=1" width="480"></iframe>Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-25916644544472260512012-04-18T18:24:00.003-04:002012-04-18T18:28:41.415-04:00My generation on Holocaust remembrance day...Yom Hashoah...People my age think Holocaust survivors are invincible--that they will live forever; forever part of, engrained, enmeshed in the fabric of our heritage, our every tradition, our identity—<br />
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But we are far too blessed—we, my generation, Jewish youth are seldom apathetic and as a result, we are prone to taking Holocaust survivors and their testimonials for granted—take the Shoah for granted--We grew up with it. But, it is the Shoah that has built our foundation, the basis of our very survival—we, my generation is who we are today because of the people who went through hell and back—the people who hid, the people who escaped death and survived concentration camps, the people who gave us, my generation choice because they had none. <br />
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You gave us reason, or better yet, passed on reason to live—not only to live, but be thankful to live. It is you, the Holocaust survivors of the world, that me and so many other younger generations can do what we want—freely, without persecution—so, I say, we will be damned if we don’t tribute our survivors the way they deserve—we my generation, owes it to all of them.<br />
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How dare I or my generation turn a blind eye on the possibilities that the Holocaust can happen again—we should never be so complacent—how dare we, my generation turn a blind eye on Eretz Yisrael.<br />
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We, my generation owe it to you our survivors, to us and our children and our children’s children to live H’kol Israel, free, in peace, humbled by our Judaism, grateful, forever, for our past. We will never turn a blind eye.<br />
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Let us learn from our survivors, but more importantly, celebrate them.<br />
Elise Kayfetz, 2012 on Yom HashoahElise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-34763754320649413922012-04-10T11:45:00.001-04:002012-04-10T11:45:53.663-04:00Finally...geriatric hospital facilityhttp://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/10/nyregion/geriatric-emergency-units-opening-at-us-hospitals.html?_r=1&ref=anemonahartocollis<br />
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My thoughts on this article to come soon...Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-10796626497253335762012-04-10T11:40:00.001-04:002012-04-10T11:40:30.890-04:00Old Man In Nursing Home Reacts To Hearing Music From His Era<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/NKDXuCE7LeQ?fs=1" width="480"></iframe><br />
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Don't underestimate anyone.Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-44517080255527310912012-03-19T14:30:00.001-04:002012-03-19T14:30:03.627-04:0064th anniversary/ Vow Renewal/ 100th Birthday...never too late!<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/V2LyNAxcRlo?fs=1" width="480"></iframe>Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-9214475320517049292012-03-06T01:13:00.004-05:002012-03-06T01:25:17.973-05:00ZoomerCompass...the answer to all your aging needsZoomerCompass will guide you through the aging experience.<br />
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Whether you are an adult child caring for your older adult parents; a developer for older adult facilities or a caregiver looking for support, ZoomerCompass will provide you with the directions you need but don't have time to find (especially if you are a sandwich generation member).<br />
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ZoomerCompass will direct you. ZoomerCompass will design your own aging map. Stick with ZoomerCompass and your stress levels, feelings of guilt and burden will reduce drastically so that you too, the caregiver, can enjoy a quality of life and a meaningful experience. So that you, the developer, can be confident that your environment is a stimulating one for your clients. <br />
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Let ZoomerCompass be your personal guide. We won't steer your wrong.Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-29747854178296686262012-03-05T11:32:00.004-05:002012-03-05T12:28:04.428-05:00Proud to be "just like mom"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEJ0_PVEYrZdrW8HPIv6e79Eti6QvG6PF87xi39u2Q27L7XppkK-Vfr8PBucudWSNv3R8ENLfTMBy4sdGvddDaP7gprRwXm744tYvOLhnJ4yEZGDOaTwEAo3atcOZJ-dD03M39oFxAtmk/s1600/mom+and+me.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear:right; float:right; margin-left:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="139" width="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEJ0_PVEYrZdrW8HPIv6e79Eti6QvG6PF87xi39u2Q27L7XppkK-Vfr8PBucudWSNv3R8ENLfTMBy4sdGvddDaP7gprRwXm744tYvOLhnJ4yEZGDOaTwEAo3atcOZJ-dD03M39oFxAtmk/s200/mom+and+me.JPG" /></a></div><br />
In the 80's, Toronto ran a television game show called "just like mom" that my own mother and sister were on. Well, not only were they on the show, they won the game and the fridge at my cottage was the prize.<br />
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And today, fast forward a few years, as the younger daughter (not that that has anything to do with it), I am learning how similar I am to my mother and I couldn't be prouder. A dear friend (thank you Ranit--who too has a similar bond with her beautiful mother) sent this photo to me and it resonates so purely. Just recently, (as of this past Saturday) I was in Florida with my mother for 6 days. We went to the beach almost every day and relaxed (cause we know how), talked to strangers (it comes natural), ate pickles (the same kind) and ate M&M's for dessert (we share the same sweet tooth). But most of all we are patient and extend our seconds and minutes together because we <i>both</i> are great appreciators of life. And we look alike...<br />
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Thank you momma for inspiring and instilling all of these wonderful personas, values and tastes in me. I love you.Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-5760045712996209022012-03-01T00:40:00.002-05:002012-03-01T00:55:24.540-05:00#granspirationStephen Lewis Foundation (SLF) wants you to share how your grandparents inspire you. You should tell them (and continue to share your stories with me). <br />
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In all seriousness, SLF is giving rise to a global aging issue that speaks closely to my heart. In my work towards my gerontology degree, I invested time looking at the experience of older adults in Africa, specifically grandparents and how this role impacts them. Or shall I say, round 2 of child rearing because their adult children have passed on from HIV? Or shall I talk about the fact that grandparents are raising their grandchildren who too, might I add, are suffering from HIV? What resources do these older adults have? And my goodness, what kind of retirement is that? I'm sorry, but this takes the "aging" experience to a whole other level. When can these individuals kick up their heels and relax? I beg your pardon, I must be naive. This is the <i>norm</i> for older adults in Africa?!? <br />
I will post my research on this soon. <br />
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Talk about inspiring grandparents...Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-18431212927502379362012-02-29T11:01:00.000-05:002012-02-29T11:01:19.372-05:00EMDA Israeli Alzheimer Association: The wrong movie<iframe width="480" height="270" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/7kKAq6lHgeY?fs=1" frameborder="0" allowFullScreen=""></iframe><br /><br />It's one thing to know about it; and it's another thing to experience it. Feel Alzheimer's.Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-80395253948498148582012-02-14T16:13:00.002-05:002012-10-10T12:20:03.749-04:00Lessons from my retirement home sleepover...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I spent 5 days with my late Aunty Rose in her retirement home living my life to the beat of her fast drum. This woman knew the value of time and money, so we never wasted either. Our days started at 5am. I would wake up to her murmurs and conversations to herself--she was not mental, she was just talking herself through her morning regimen. "Where the gd damn are my teeth!" she would grunt...and then a few minutes later in a cheery, sweet high pitched voice she proudly gleamed, "oh, there they are!," followed by a delightful giggle. As my eyes started to adjust to the break of dawn, I could see her from the corner of my blurry eyes (I wear contacts) walking around in a white braiser and her washed out denims. And, just as she had done every morning, she would stretch holding onto the side of her sink basin for support (although, she rarely put pressure on it). She would bend her knees, do front and side leg kicks and practice her breathing. She didn't think I could hear her or see what was happening and every morning, when I woke up she said, "oh, did I wake you?" Of course she did, but, I loved every minute of it. She was my alarm clock for 5 mornings and each morning she would do the same thing. She inspired me to peel my tired body from her bed (even though we would fall asleep around 8 or 9pm--i'm use to a later bedtime) and join her in her morning walks (speed walk). Every morning, the same thing. I got ready quickly as she put on her finishing touches of lipstick and each morning she would ask me to pencil in her eyebrows..."just a thin line, that's all, not too much," and when I was done with her, she would pucker her lips, look at me and smile say, "okay, let's go!" mid laugh. I'd say nothing and follow her. I think she was shocked that I wanted to spend so much time with her. She actually would say, "why do you want to spend time with an old lady like me?" I think it threw her off. Why would a 27 year old fly all the way to LA and stay at a retirement home, let alone hang out in one...<br />
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Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-12775902303105860382012-02-14T15:53:00.000-05:002012-02-14T15:53:03.749-05:00HiddenGems<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjj2DXx9pQuNBDjxb7H_bcchmtuPa0QR2ATqHc1lOHTSpwkzbalsa-ZVkQvh9TW8PIizYLGZR-Hw_eFpJnultzwpn0ZDmZ_N-nkpkh4CMye1Q3UxyfCkVDivzC0iwkxvIvXV-LsFIRjyDE/s1600/IMG_3866.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="200" width="150" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjj2DXx9pQuNBDjxb7H_bcchmtuPa0QR2ATqHc1lOHTSpwkzbalsa-ZVkQvh9TW8PIizYLGZR-Hw_eFpJnultzwpn0ZDmZ_N-nkpkh4CMye1Q3UxyfCkVDivzC0iwkxvIvXV-LsFIRjyDE/s200/IMG_3866.jpg" /></a></div><br />
scrounging for fashion, 6th street and 2nd ave., nyElise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-31504314381349574032012-02-14T15:50:00.000-05:002012-02-14T15:50:38.998-05:00Top 20 Greatest Romances of All Time<a href="http://www.zoomermag.com/people/top-20-greatest-romances-of-all-time/14599">Top 20 Greatest Romances of All Time</a>Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-81576876261679280662012-02-13T10:02:00.000-05:002012-02-13T10:02:12.114-05:00Interested and inspiring read: Why are some 80-plus-year-old seniors as sharp as people 30 years younger? - Chicago Sun-Times<a href="http://www.suntimes.com/news/metro/10371991-418/brain-teasers.html#.TzklzRxrPNA.blogger">Why are some 80-plus-year-old seniors as sharp as people 30 years younger? - Chicago Sun-Times</a>Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-13810718433332197502012-02-02T18:36:00.000-05:002012-02-02T18:36:19.889-05:00"Coming out" made easier in older years...IT's no surprise that older LGBT adults have kept their sexual preferences in the closet most of their lives. Being gay was not even discussed let alone accepted and if you were gay, you were shunned -- living your life behind a brick wall with nowhere and no one to tell; living your whole life thinking something was wrong with you as if you had an incurable disease. <br />
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And now, whether it was STONEWALL that pushed everyone out of the closet, older adults in their late 60's and 70's even 80's and 90's are <i>still</i> coming out. It's not easy accepting liberation and freedom when you have been hiding for so long so of course, coming out in your older years coupled with "normative" age related challenges is not easy. We have to understand that these older adults are breaking the "traditional" barriers of their time and entering a world that will finally accept them--it's like being born again. <br />
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It's certainly not uncommon to see older couples of the same sex holding hands or smooching on a park bench batting eyes interchangeably--finally, freely and lovingly. But the honey moon of freshly coming out later in life doesn't last long (although we wish it could)...unless you know about organizations like SAGE--Services and Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Elders which came out in 1978 (11 years after Stonewall) providing services, resources and opportunities to this unique population. To know this organization is to know that your rights and needs will be addressed, protected and met.<br />
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Check here: http://sageusa.org/uploads/SagePB_AmericanAct_web.pdf to see some of their progressions. It's inspiring to see an organization come together to make change.Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4812461082309679400.post-29755844986230827752012-02-02T14:00:00.000-05:002012-02-02T14:00:36.018-05:00Advanced Style Film: trailer<iframe width="480" height="270" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/nWKTfqivbRQ?fs=1" frameborder="0" allowFullScreen=""></iframe><br /><br /><br />Advanced Style for life!Elise Kayfetzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02395830168772329074noreply@blogger.com0